THE STOP PROGRAM Recommended Videos

1. Many of these scenes are available on YouTube.

2. Other scenes are available by purchasing the DVD at Amazon or any other seller and are also available via streaming. These are marked below with the word “PURCHASE.” The specific timing of the scene is noted below. The exact timing of the specific video clips may vary on different DVD players.

3.  There are seven scenes from the Australian-produced series called It’s Just A Choice. The DVD with ALL of these scenes is available for purchase from the Relationship Training Institute. These scenes also can be streamed click here

4. Program facilitators are strongly encouraged to use their own video clips to specifically illustrate key points in this program if they find them useful. However, only brief video clips should be used—group members should never be stuck in a room to watch a 1-hour or 2-hour video. This is not the best use of group time. 

THE STOP PROGRAM (Men’s Manual-4th edition) Videos

SESSION #1

SESSION #2

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Stoning of Soraya M. (starts at 23:09 at the family meal and ends at 27:09 as the woman and girls are leaving the house) 

SESSION #4

SESSION #5

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Great Santini (“high school basketball game” begins at 1:02:24 and ends at 1:11:21) 

  • Video (PURCHASE): Boyz ‘N the Hood (“responding to shooting” begins at 1:32:29 and ends at 1:37:31) 

SESSION #6

SESSION #7

SESSION #9

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Great Santini (one-on-one basketball scene begins at 31:48 and ends at 40:23) 

  • Video (PURCHASE): Boyz ‘N the Hood (“put-down” scene begins 17:58/ends 18:40) 

SESSION #10

  • Video (PURCHASE): Good Will Hunting (“shame argument” scene begins at 1:22:42 and ends at 1:27:08)

SESSION #11

  • Video (PURCHASE): Affliction (begins at 6:36 at school party and ends at 12:20 when father walks out the door, then begins again at 14:39 when ex-wife’s car pulls up and ends at 16:34 after car drives away) 

SESSION #14

SESSION #15

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Break-Up (starts at 18:50 with “All right guys, bye-bye” and ends at 24:35 after man walks out the door)

SESSION #17

SESSION #18

  • Video (PURCHASE): In Treatment--Season One (HBO series), “Jake and Amy—Week One” (begins just before wife walks up to the door at 6:20 and ends after husband makes comment about her hemorrhoids at 16:23)

SESSION #21

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Great Santini  (kitchen scene begins 1:28:29/ends 1:29:57) 

SESSION #26

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Break-Up (the “male friends” scene begins at 26:13 and ends at 27:54) 

THE STOP PROGRAM—For Women Who Abuse (2nd edition) Videos

SESSION #1 

SESSION #2 

SESSION #3 

  • Video (PURCHASE): I, Tonya (The abuse by mother begins at 23:43 and ends at 25:21/then begins at 55:05 and ends at 57:17/then couple assault scene begins at 44:45 and ends at 45:45) 

SESSION #6 

SESSION #8 

SESSION #12 

SESSION #13

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Break-Up (starts at 18:50 with “All right guys, bye-bye” and ends at 24:35 after man walks out the door)

SESSION #14 

SESSION #16

  • Video (PURCHASE): In Treatment--Season One (HBO series), “Jake and Amy—Week One” (begins just before wife walks up to the door at 6:20 and ends after husband makes comment about her hemorrhoids at 16:23)

SESSION #18 

  • Men Don’t Tell (...The man keeping secrets begins at 14:18-16:47 on YouTube/then on 42:50-46:54 on DVD or 40:00-44:04)

SESSION #21 

  • Video (PURCHASE): The Great Santini (Kids witnessing spouse abuse begins at 1:28:29 and ends at 1:29:57)

SESSION #22 

  • Video (PURCHASE): Sideways (The female assault scene begins at 1:35:04 and ends at 1:36:18 when man says “Keep it elevated”)

  • Blame & Accountability - Brené Brown

SESSION #23 

  • Video (PURCHASE): When A Man Loves A Woman (begins at 30:54 when woman gets out of the cab, ends at 35:40 after father tells daughter that he is sending someone over to help)