David Wexler has worked with men and their families for well over twenty years and it shows. His book is clear, practical, insightful, and useful. This book will give new hope to men who wish to behave better and new understanding to those who love them. I highly recommend it.
Terry Real, author of
"I Don't Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression" |
David Wexler has an impressive knack for explaining many of the complexities of men's emotional and relational lives in language that most guys can understand and appreciate. There is an abundance of profound insight and practical advice about men – and women – in Good Men Behaving Badly. I have to say that I saw myself in its pages – along with virtually every other man I know.
Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning film, Tough Guise
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Dr. David B. Wexler's new book
is now available:
"When Good Men Behave Badly:
Change Your Behavior,
Change Your Relationship"
Four easy ways to purchase this book:
Learn about the three factors that contribute to deficits in male emotional intelligence and relationship competence:
• Many men have difficulty recognizing and labeling internal states.
• Many men easily become "emotionally flooded" in the face of not-so-masculine emotions.
• Many men feel pressured to "take action" or escape in the face of uncomfortable
experiences.
Working from these three core assumptions, When Good Men Behave Badly explores the triggers that can lead to damaging behavior. It offer a series of specific, focused techniques to help men generate alternative responses when faced with previously unbearable emotions.
CHAPTER OUTLINE
- Good Men & Broken Mirrors
- The Power Of Women
- Mid-Life, Affairs, & Projections
- Fathers: Then & Now
- Men’s Brains
- Odysseus, Relational Heroism, & Imaginary Crimes
- Guy Talk: Speaking The Language Of Men
- What Women Can Do
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
- Learn about the three conditions leading to deficits in male emotional intelligence and relationship competence–and what to do about them:
- Many men have difficulty recognizing and labeling internal states.
- Many men easily become “emotionally flooded” in the face of not-so-masculine emotions.
- Men are prone to either take action or escape in the face of uncomfortable experiences.
- Learn about the particular power that men ascribe to women, particularly through a detailed discussion of the “broken mirror” phenomenon.
- Explore the father-son relationship and the reality of male peer relations, and see why these patterned reactions can reinforce bad behavior from generation to generation.
- Use structured exercises and strategies to help transfer the concepts of the book into daily experience.
- Using a relentlessly humanistic and empathic perspective, a wide range of examples from the therapist’s office and from the popular media, and the latest research about male psychological development, learn how to develop a new and more compassionate narrative for relationship struggles.
- Learn specific guidelines for women to help distinguish good-hearted men from dangerous ones, guidelines on how to help bring out the good man in him, and tips on how to raise boys to be good men.
- Understand research about the male brain and male neuropsychological functioning which is often maladaptive for the demands of modern relationships.
- Become inspired by example after example of male success stories in relationships and of the “soft underbellies” of even the most defended men.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
David B. Wexler, Ph.D., is the founder and executive director of the Relationship Training Institute in San Diego, an organization designed to help relationships in conflict. The California Psychological Association has honored Dr. Wexler with the Distinguished Contribution to Psychology award. He is also the author of several books, including Domestic Violence 2000 and The Adolescent Self.
Drawing on hundreds of interviews with men about their relationships and twenty years of experience in the field, Dr. Wexler helps men (and the women who love them) understand how even good men often damage healthy intimate relationships because they are unable to recognize and express their emotions. He offers a wide range of strategies for how "real men" can transcend this conditioning and do it differently.
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